Not long ago I was driving and my heart was aching with concern over one of my children. It seemed that life wasn’t coming together for him in many areas. My mama heart wanted to jump in and fix all of it.
I was mulling over how I could jury rig a few things to bring things together in a few areas. You could hear the helicopter whirring above. Suddenly my thoughts were interrupted, “Do not undo what I am doing. These things are needed for what I have for him. I am teaching compassion and grace.”
I’m sure it was God giving me perspective. He was putting tools in my son’s hands;tools he will need for his life.
God began to show me how every one of the situations my son had encountered, and was encountering was preparation for him.
What he wants to do will require integrity. He is learning it.
What he wants to do will require compassion. He is learning it.
What he wants to do will require perseverance. He is learning it.
What he wants to do will require grace. He is learning it.
What he wants to do will require strength in the midst of pressure. He is learning it.
The remarkable thing is that at youth group, my son’s friend told him the exact same thing. Godly perspective. He got it from my husband and me. He got it from his friend.
Godly perspective gives us the grace we need to walk through adversity with hope.
We need the grace to carry on and to know that adversity is preparing us and conforming us into His image. It is one of the ways God makes our lives beautiful.
Through Joseph’s adversity, he learned integrity, trust, compassion, kindness, humility, and forgiveness.
It was grace that gave him the ability to walk through the years of adversity and become the great man he was.
Without adversity in Joseph’s life, there would have been no story.
Without the grace and perspective to walk through pain and disappointment, he would have become a bitter and angry victim of his circumstances.
That grace to walk through adversity with perspective comes from God.
Adversity gives us tools of compassion, empathy, grace, and hope to help others walk through their adversity.
Adversity changes us.
When we walk through it well, we become softer, kinder, more compassionate, stronger and more resilient. We learn integrity, authenticity, grace, and love. The most grace-filled, loving people I know have the hardest stories and have faced some of the biggest adversities.
After all, Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that God causes all things to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them.”
Father, I thank You that everything in my children’s lives is filtered by You. Please give me the wisdom I need to help them to walk through the things they face with Your perspective. Teach me to have grace for them and to handle them how You would when they do things that are wrong. Please complete the work that You are doing through the adversity they experience.. Help me to handle them wisely, with Your perspective, and without fear. Thank You for the gift of my children and help me to point them to You. Amen.
Author: Wendy Gerdes