This past November, my husband and I set sail to the Caribbean for five days of kids-free bliss.
Being my first-ever cruise, I was overwhelmed by all that the ship had to offer. I believe it was the second day we stumbled upon “Salsa Dancing,” listed in our activity guide…
Sure, why not?
Salsa dancing… If you know my husband and myself personally, you are probably laughing hysterically. My 6 foot 3 inch husband has the build of a professional hockey player, while I fall somewhere at about chin-level. Additionally, coordination and balance are not exactly my strong suits (meaning I have none of either).
Yes, it was exactly as you are imagining. I was stumbling everywhere and my poor husband, holding hand and hip, pretty much had to push and pull me across the dance floor, attempting to ace the fast and graceful moves of salsa.
About ten minutes into the class, instructors shouted, “Ladies, let your man lead!”
I would try. I would relax and my body began responded to guidance. Then something would happen… he’d miss a step, or fumble the wrong way. Seconds later I’d be back to attempting to coerce my own “better” way.
You know where this is going.
It’s so hard to give up control, isn’t it? If you’re like me you’ve probably vowed at least a thousand times to be an Ephesians 5:22 wife, “… wives… submit to your husband… ”
So we agree to trust them with decisions, the finances, the children, the house search… only to take back control after a misstep or awkward fumble.
Do you know why I think it’s so hard? I think it has everything to do with the second part of the verse:
“…submit to your husbands as to the Lord.”
And there’s the key: Our level of our submissiveness to our husband is in direct correlation to our submissiveness to God.
Am I being patient and allowing His plan to play out in my life, or am I stepping out on my own and praying He’ll follow suit?
In other words, who’s leading who?
I’m not going to sit here and pretend it’s easy. I’m living the struggle right now.
Most days I feel like I’m standing in the middle of the dance floor, holding tight to Jesus and waiting on Him to make the next move… and He’s holding completely still.
The test is this: will I follow His lead or attempt to force my own, graceless moves on the King of the universe?
Sounds silly when I think about it that way.
Friends, submission is a group package. If we want to be Ephesians 5:22 wives, it begins in our relationship to God.
Submission to God requires humbling ourselves,
recognizing that He is God and we are not,
trusting that His understanding is unlimited,
and believing that His dance moves are far better than anything our two left feet could ever manage.
Let’s all take a deep breath in… and relax. The God of the universe holds us in His hands and He sees our lives from beginning to end, and is capable of guiding our every step.
When we begin to trust His lead, it is then that we see and appreciate the beautiful protection He has set in place by “covering” us not only with Himself, but with our husbands, also, through submission.
Who’s leading who in your life? Do you find yourself fighting to take back control when it seems things are out of hand, or are you fully resting in the Father’s guidance? Regardless of where you stand today, let’s all take another step towards learning to trust God in both in the stillness and in the dance.
Word of the Day:
“…submit to your husbands as to the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22 (NLT)
God, If I’m honest, I don’t always trust you. But I believe that you are trustworthy. Help me to allow you to lead in my life, instead of trying to do it on my own. Give me grace to honor my husband by submitting to him, as unto you. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.