To. The. Core.
And if studies are correct, up to 50% of you reading this are, too.
Well guess what? This one’s for you, so stick with me…
Often times I’ve used the excuse, “It’s just not my personality,” when it comes to joining a small group, hanging out with other moms or dodging a new role at work.
While the Bible does not directly address personality types, we know that:
(a) God made each and every one of us wonderfully, uniquely, and purposely (Psalm 139), and (b) Each of us makes up a part of the collective Body of Christ—the church (1 Corinthians 12).
Now, if I were to label myself a part, I’d probably be the legs.
Or a leg, I guess. (A socially-challenged leg.)
I’m always trying to get things moving forward.
But a leg wouldn’t be very useful without another leg.
And those legs wouldn’t be very useful without feet.
And those feet wouldn’t be very useful without toes.
And all those parts wouldn’t be very useful without a torso… am I right?!
Friend, God created you with intention. Your personality, skill-set, and experiences make up you, and you are an integral part of the Body of Christ.
Others need you. You need others. We are better together.
There is no opt-out when it comes to communing with the other parts of the Body.
There have been times where I have failed miserably, existing as a borderline hermit. Then other times I’ve swung the pendulum too far in the other direction, leaving myself absolutely exhausted.
I’ve learned a few things from those experiences, and I hope they’ll help you find balance in your search of green pastures:
Know Thyself, Mind Your Calendar. I don’t know about you, but I can only handle a few social gatherings a week. When pursuing intentional relationships with godly friends and mentors, I have to keep in mind my limits. In the best intentions, I’ve made the mistake of scheduling a get-together during a week already overloaded with commitments. Fatigue and distraction led to disappointment knowing I wasn’t able to make the very best of our time together.
Make a Commitment, Keep Your Commitment. I love memes—especially introvert ones.
The most relatable, to me, has to be: “Makes plans… Looks for reasons to cancel.”
Seriously though, this is such a difficult area for me. I make plans with all of the best intentions, then my feelings come in, and I get all tangled up.
What I’m learning is that most often when I don’t “feel” like being around others is when I need it most. God has used so many of these situations to encourage and inspire me. We’re going to have to move beyond our feelings and step out in faith if we want to see God move in and through our relationships!
Pray & Be Brave
A couple of years ago I found myself in a weird place of transition. I didn’t have many friends, and definitely not any I could call in the middle of the night or reach out to in a pinch. I knew I was lacking in this area, and I really did understand the importance of community, but fear had a grip on me. After seeking the advice of a respected leader, I was encouraged to pray and be brave.
Did you know that God cares about every detail of your life? He created you for community, and He wants to surround you with people who will build you up and move you forward into the incredible destiny He has planned for you. So if you find yourself in a similar place, today, in need of friends—or better friends—and longing for true Biblical community, take your request to the Lord. He knows. He cares. And He is waiting to help.
But don’t just sit around in your “nest” waiting on friends to show up, you’ve got to be brave! Text, call, or message that person the Lord lays on your heart. Join that small group you’ve been interested in. Make that play date you’ve been putting off. Faith without action is dead!
I hope this week’s devotions have given you the truth, hope, and encouragement you need to seek out and maintain intentional and beneficial relationships. As we wrap up, I encourage you to ask the Lord, in your own words, to show you the next step He would have you to take in this area. Write it down, and begin to plan smaller action steps to get you moving forward.