(Insert weeping and gnashing of teeth)
Okay, just kidding on that last one. But this—this is how I spend the majority of my days lately. I feel like parenthood, itself, IS the very definition of insanity (doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results).
Yes, I’m right in the throes of the “terrible twos,” and though this is my third “rodeo,” it feels just as difficult as the very first time.
Why? Because this child is different than the one before, who was different than the one before him.
This is my first time raising a girl, and my first time managing the terrible twos while simultaneously navigating the early years of elementary with my two boys.
Each new season brings both the excitement and challenge of change and growth.
Honestly, I’d need all of my fingers and toes to show you how many times a day I find myself at the end of myself, desperate for wisdom. And that’s just when it comes to parenting. I also need wisdom for financial decisions, job situations, relationships… and the list goes on.
It can all be so overwhelming. What’s a mom to do?
A verse I go to often was written by James, the brother of Jesus. He wrote, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you” (James 1:5).
I love that for two reasons.
First, it promises me that God not only has the wisdom I need, but He is willing to give it to me… generously!
Second, He gives without fault. I don’t know about you, but I often fault myself.
You’re strong. You should be able to handle this.
You’re smart. You should be able to figure this out.
But God doesn’t fault me for my humanity—He doesn’t fault any of us! In fact, He created us to be dependent on Him. He delights in our dependence.
Wisdom is available, freely, for every situation we will ever face. And getting it is as simple as ABC:
- Admit our need for wisdom. James says we must ask. This is hard to do if we’ve become accustomed to the prideful mask of I’ve got it together. We’ve got to take off our mask, reveal our shortcomings, and acknowledge our need for God.
Proverbs 3:7 tells us, “Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil” (Proverbs 3:7).
- Be in His Word and in His presence. The Bible says that Jesus himself is wisdom (1 Corinthians 1:30). As we walk closely with Christ, seeking Him, spending time in His Word and in His presence, we become wise.
God most often speaks to us through His Word. But we’ve got to be in it, often! While the Bible doesn’t always address my specific situation, I’m always amazed at how God has spoken to me, in the past, through various stories and verses. Did you know there’s even an entire book of the Bible completely devoted to imparting wisdom? Proverbs.
For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding. (Proverbs 2:6)
- Circle ourselves with wise friends. I love what Lysa Terkeurst says, “We must go where wisdom gathers, not where wisdom scatters.” If we want to be wise, we must be around the wise. The Bible says this multiple times! Be intentional about who you spend your time around (and who you don’t). Seek out a wise mentor who will speak truth and wisdom over your life instead of gossip and worldly advice.
The mouths of the righteous utter wisdom, and their tongues speak what is just.”(Psalm 37:30)
Are decisions causing you stress and grief today? Know this: whatever situation you’re facing—whether it’s a defiant teen, adjusting to life with a newborn, or a chronic health condition—God has the wisdom you need to get through it. It’s available, and it’s free.
Word of the Day:
For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding.(Proverbs 2:6)
God, there are so many things weighing on my heart today. So many situations where I feel paralyzed or helpless. I know that you are the source of wisdom. I don’t have all of the answers, and I need you right now. You said I need only to ask for wisdom and that You will give generously, so I’m asking today. Speak to me as I pour out my heart before You, and spend time in Your Word. Help me to plant myself among sisters in Christ who can impart your truth and encouragement. Thank You that You are a generous, loving God who provides all of my needs. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Author: Katie Gibson