I long to be a Proverbs 31 woman. I’m guessing you do too. “When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.” (Proverbs 31:26)
Sigh. This is so far from reality, in my life, so much of the time.
A more accurate version would read:
“When she speaks her words are half-thought-out, and she gives instructions with a shout.” (Story of My Life, chapter 968, verse 40)
I’m so very much a work in progress. But I’m learning, with time, that I can’t think myself better. I can’t magically produce nicer, more thoughtful, wiser, and affirming words, at will.
Luke 6:45 gives some insight to this problem, “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of (emphasis mine).”
Yikes. Luke’s words reveal that those unloving, impatient, dirty words are bubbling out of an unloving, impatient, dirty heart. An unattended heart.
As moms, we have so many people, places and things to tend to on a daily basis. We love our families and seek to serve them well, but so often we forget to tend to the one thing that will ultimately serve them best—our hearts.
So what does tending to our hearts even mean? I believe there are three ways we do this.
We must clean our heart.
“Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me.” (Psalm 51:10)
If you’ve been living on this earth a day or two, there are probably messy areas of your heart that you’re not even aware of. Though unseen, these hidden hurts, sins, and fears taint the heart-to-mouth flow.
In Psalm 139:23-24 the psalmist David cries out, “Search me, O God, and know my heart… point out anything in me that offends you”.
David was brave enough to let a Holy God interrupt His ways, and bring to light the less-than-desirable attitudes and behaviors in His life.
We must guard our heart.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. (Proverbs 4:23)
These sources can permeate our hearts with hatred, fear, shame, anxiety and other unhealthy sins, beliefs and emotions.
Satan would love for us to sit back, and unknowingly allow Him to wreak havoc in our lives, by slow corruption of our heart, but God’s Word has already warned us—“Stay alert!” (1 Peter 5:8). We must be aware of the enemy’s veiled attempts and put a guard over our hearts to keep the junk out.
We must fill our heart.
“I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against You.” (Psalm 119:11)
Here’s the part that ties in with our key verse for the day (Luke 6:45)—in order for our mouths to speak good things, we must fill our hearts with good things!
I’ve discovered that the quality of the words coming out of my mouth are in direct proportion to the quality of the time I’ve been spending in God’s Word.
Have you been spending time in the Word? I know, for me, this is one area of my life that I am continually working on. The Bible is God’s love letter to us, through which we get to know Him more! Keeping this healthy perspective creates a continual, insatiable desire to get into God’s Word.
So how’s your heart?
What’s on the outside flows from within. Let’s take a moment to pause and pray today…
Father God, thank you for the truth of your Word. Thank you that your Word has the power to change me, and change my situations. My desire is to be a wife, a mom, a woman who honors you—especially by my words. I recognize that there are areas of my heart that are unpleasing to you. Shine a light and reveal hidden places of hurt, sin and fear that cause me to spew ugly, impatient and dirty words. Help me to put a guard over my heart, and create in me a desire to dig into your Word like never before, so that your truth may fill my heart. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Word of the Day:
“A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” Luke 6:45
Author: Katie Gibson