His worth and value is not tied in any way to us, and it is also not tied to what He does.
He just IS. He says, “I AM” (Exodus 3:14). He is FULLY God and does not NEED anyone, although He longs for EVERYONE.
He does because of Who He is, not what He is trying to prove, though He shows who He is over and over again simply by being Himself.
This is the life He so persistently invites us into.
A life where our worth is measured by what HE says about us and not what we or our children do.
This is why the invitation to be still and come close is so amazing and crucial to our lives and to parenting.
When we quiet ourselves enough and come close, we begin to see.
We see things according to how HE sees things instead of how we perceive them to be.
When this happens, something beautiful takes place.
We are able to love our children where they’re at because no longer is our worth and identity wrapped up in who they are or who they are becoming.
Our worth is no longer tied to our parenting successes or failures, or in our children’s successes or failures.
God gives us the ability to parent them according to who HE created them to be instead of who we think they should be.
Something else beautiful begins to happen.
We parent out of love instead of pressure, and our kids take notice.
Our parenting begins to exemplify God’s grace and instead of handling things out of fear, control, anger and frustration, we show grace—even through discipline—and those little or not so little hearts soften.
So, friends, let’s slow down and draw near to Him. The Perspective Changer, the Life Healer, the Wisdom, Hope and Grace-Giver invites us to.
When we find ourselves tied up in knots in our parenting, He knows how to untie them all.
We can trust Him.
Thank You that You see where I’m at. Please forgive me for finding my identity in things other than You. Please show me where I tend to do that and help me to see clearly where I can’t see. I know that You hold my heart in Your hands, and I trust You to do what I so desperately need You to do. Teach me to be still and just spend time with You. Teach me Your ways that I may walk in them. I love You. Thank You for loving me. Amen.