Fear is what causes us to stand in the way when God is trying to do something in our children’s lives.
When children fail tests, we are afraid they will fail at life..
When children are having a hard time with friends or finding a friend, we fear they will live their entire lives alone.
There are as many fears as there are mothers.
Betsy Brown Braun, a child development and behavior specialist, wisely said, “You prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child.”
Fear does not allow our children to grow.
I have never seen a child learn to walk without faltering or falling. A baby’s first steps are halting, off-balance, and altogether ungraceful, but we don’t critique any of that..
Think how absurd it would be to see parents watching a child walk for the first time and hearing a conversation like this, Man! He is so ungraceful! I hope he learns to walk okay. He needs to speed up a little. I think we need to make a special sidewalk for him because the cement sidewalk is just too dangerous. In fact, let’s pave the whole world with a safe material.
You also don’t see parents excited that their child took a first step immediately shout, Yay! Let’s take him outside and put him on a steep cement driveway to see how he does!
Clearly, we protect them and allow them on paths and in places that they are ready for, but we also can’t shield them from every fall, scrape, and bruise.
When a new little walker, falls, we encourage him or her by saying, Get up! Try it again! Sometimes they do fall and get hurt, and then we take time to comfort, bandage, and instruct, but we don’t ban them from ever walking again. They need to learn.
The same is true for our children as they are growing. As parents, we get to teach our children how to handle adversity. Honestly, this is one of the hardest parts of parenting for me.
When my family faces adversity, it has helped us to ask questions.
What do you think God is trying to show you through this?
What can you learn about how to treat others?
What are you learning about yourself that needs to change?
When you find yourself in a situation like this again, what can you do differently?
How do you think God could use this in your life?
Adversity is not an enemy in our children’s lives. It’s not an enemy in our lives. It is never pleasant, easy, or fun to walk through, but it can produce beauty in our lives. Some of the most beautiful people I know have the ugliest stories, but they have allowed God to make beautiful things out of the dust of their lives.
Father, I pray that the adversity we are facing will be a testimony of Your goodness, grace, and hand in our lives. I choose to respond to my children’s trials with hope and trust rather than in fear. Show me how to point them to You and to help them to have Your perspective on this situation. Thank You that You care and are actively working in our lives. Amen.